Ie it really love in a gay relationship or just sexual satisfaction?

it seams like love in the gay community is to the clubs and to the fashion and never to one another. will i ever fined love maby im batting for the wrong team. but then agin i dont like the other team. im thinkking that i should just forget about love and stik to sex

Ie it really love in a gay relationship or just sexual satisfaction?internet explorer 6

Bro, being gay is who you are, not what you do. Being straight/gay and being a slu t are two different things. If you are under the impression that you have to have sex first before falling in love, you've got it backwards. Sex is meant to be an expression of ALREADY EXISTING love between two people. Trying to find a gay guy who isn't a slu t (in other words, a guy who is looking for love first and sex second) is like looking for a needle in a hay stack - BUT they are out there. There's nothing wrong with going to the clubs, but if you're looking for love there, forget it! Try other places where gay people socialize, like a gay/lesbian community center or an MCC (Metropolitan Community Church which serves the gay community). Joining a social group of gay people helps create social relationships in non-sexual settings. For example, here in South Florida where I live there is a group called VENTURE OUT with hundreds of gay/lesbian members, and every weekend we get together to have a BBQ or go to an amusement park, have movie night, potluck dinners, beach parties, etc. Social groups like this create an environment of friendship with other gays/lesbians that are not sexually intensive, but casual and fun.

In the end, only you can decide what to do. Wanting to "Bat for the other team" just because you haven't found love yet is as nonsense as a right handed person cutting off his left hand after saying "well, I guess I just can't write with my left hand."

Remember these two things:

1) No one has A RIGHT to love. What I mean is, no one ever guaranteed anyone else when they were born that someone would fall in love with them. So don't assume that Mr. Right is suddenly going to fall out of the sky into your lap just because you want someone RIGHT NOW.

2) 50% of what you get is caused or induced by YOU. If you want to fall in love and you don't want life to be all about slu t sex, then YOU have to take the first step and start living that type of life. You hear some people say, "You won't find love if you don't actively look for it" and others will say, "Love only happens when you're not looking for it." They are both wrong. The really issue is that you do not want to go to the extreme sides of either of those things. It's true that you will not find love if you lock yourself in a room, but it is also true that you won't find love when you're desparately seeking it over land and sea. Your search for love must be ballanced like any other desire in your life, such as a career: your search for it should be done cool, calm and collectedly, with patience, faith, and dilligence - not with obsession, impatience, and depression.

Rev. Jim Cunningham

GayChristianSurvivors.com

Ie it really love in a gay relationship or just sexual satisfaction?windows live internet explorer

Might help if you take a few spelling lessons first, chum.
i love my partner. My relationships have never been about sex at all. But, i must have sexual attraction to be in a sexual relationship with someone....
Love is about love, and it has nothing to do with gender, so yes, it is really love in gay relationships.
You just haven't met the right person yet.
You've gotta kiss a lotta frogs before you find your Prince Charming!!
Here's a wild idea you may never have thought of before: gay people are ... people. Wow! What about that?

Some people (gay, straight and all other variations) are obsessed with sex.

Some other people are more mature, and interested in relationships based around love, trust, commitment.

If you want the second kind of relationship, then you need to look at the people with whom you socialise.

Clearly English is not your first language, but do try to use the Check Spelling button - it will make it easier for the rest of us to work out what it is you want to say.

Good luck

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Dude... that's sad... but I know exactly how u feel...

I was about to give up last year...

everyone around me was looking for sex...

anytime I met someone interesting... he was only interested in what I have between my legs... (it was fun, no doubt... I mean... "Hi there, what's your name?" and then he was right in front of you down on his knees)

But that's not what I was looking for...

I really needed to be loved and to love...

And guess what?

I met the right guy...

We are a couple since last september (that's a real goal for me!)... I really love him and we are planning our future together... I'm the happiest man in the world!

Never give up on love... that's the only thing that can fullfill your heart...

Love, I give u a hug...

Francesco
its love maybe you shoudl give it a chance
You should stop trying to conform, and live by your own definition, to your own ends.

You want love, find love, don't settle for less.

You're part of the modern GLBT community, which is less sex-centric and more relationship focused. Embrace it, it's modern, it's now, those that aren't with it aren't modern, they haven't moved on.

So again, if you want love, don't settle for sex, you'll never be happy that way.